Stop Confusing Your Calling with His Commands

As I grew into adulthood, I often wondered, prayed about, wrestled with and sought counsel over my calling. I looked to the lives of so many valiant souls that crossed my unsettled path for direction and motivation. What was I going to do with my life? What was my calling…

How Our Family Makes Decisions in Foster Care

One simply complex decision to take the next step to sign up for foster parent classes flowed into licensing and saying yes to our first placement. Since then, we have stood countless crossroads, sometimes paralyzed by the whirl of opinions and choices and what ifs. And nothing, NOTHING, is ever…

My Fierce Love is Free for All of My Kids

Last week, you asked about my kids. You questioned how they were processing and coping and adjusting in our ever-evolving lifestyle. Babies are frequently coming or going or coming AND going. Our home is a habitual hustle and our lives are run by the rhythm of court…

Finding Strength in the Sabbatical

Today our family’s numbers are down. Today I catch myself when someone asks me how many kids I have. I quickly correct the count in my quiver because conversing about foster care isn’t topping the agenda. Today I am breathing. And I am building…

Say This, NOT That to Foster Parents

I was born without a filter. That’s not true. I used to have one, but somewhere around college, I found my voice and it has been hard to silence ever since. I call my craft wit. Others call it inappropriate. I never intend to be offensive…but…

His Love is Always Enough

It’s your last day in my arms. I knew we would share one of these dreaded memories but the blow isn’t softened by knowledge of its impending arrival. Regardless of my reservations and fears about your move, you’re still leaving. And the ache of…

Get Your Hands Dirty

Life is messy. We’d all agree on that. And if you don’t, are you breathing? Even without the weight of someone else’s problems, our own worlds seem heavy at times. But add in another human being and it’s only a matter of…

Why You Can’t Hold My Baby

Trust. It seems so basic to the human relationship. But it holds more power than almost anything else in our development. Trust is the foundation of our decision-making process. It’s also the most important gift kids from hard places (read: EVERY SINGLE KID IN FOSTER CARE) can…

Loving When You Know You’ll Lose

I laid my sweet boy down in the crib tonight. My shirt was damp from his drool and my left arm was tingling as sensation slowly returned. Seconds earlier, his sleepy head rested heavy in the sweet spot of my mama arm-that place that was made just for a…

Don’t Waste the Wait

I’m a dreamer. I’m a doer. I can’t stand stagnation. I need my plate full, my to do list long and my next challenge in sight.  I want to press on at full speed and I find myself in eager anticipation for the…